Hi, my name is Daphna Schwartz and I am a lawyer with Feldstein Family Law Group. Today I am going to talk to you about being civil to your ex-spouse in the face of infidelity.

Marriages end of many reasons, one being infidelity. When a marriage ends for this reason, it is inevitable that the spouse will be angry and hold resentment towards the spouse that cheated, especially if the spouse that cheated commences a relationship with whom the person they had their affair.

This anger can get in the way of co-parenting children and can result in disagreements and confrontations in front of children, especially when the new partner is around. Both spouses need to be cognizant of the fact that they are only hurting their children and may cause emotional and/or mental harm to their children who are witness to these confrontations.

The spouse that was hurt should try his or her best to be civil with their spouse and the new partner, especially in front of their children. However, the spouse that had the affair should understand the hurt that he or she caused their spouse, and should not bring the new partner around their spouse, especially when the children are present, and especially if the spouse has made this request.

In reality, the separated spouses need to learn to play nice in front of their children as it is not the children’s fault that they separated and the children should not be put in the middle of their parents’ marital difficulties. If separating spouses are unable to control their anger and emotions towards each other in front of their children then they should seek the assistance of a counsellor for advice on how to move forward. This will be helpful to both parties in order to resolve the issues arising out of their separation, and in the future.

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